On June 13, 13 years ago (1998), I formalized the decision that would be the centerpiece of my adult life, that of getting married. I’m not sure to what extent it was a “decision,” in that it felt pretty inevitable based on our relationship and commitment, but it was nonetheless a blessing to be able to formalize and share that commitment.

I initially thought about presenting this as advice, even a set of “guidelines” for a successful marriage, but what the heck do I know? What I am pretty sure that I know is that marriage takes commitment to a code of ethics and behaviors that is conducive to the well-being of the partnership. What needs to be prioritized presumably varies from couple to couple, but the basic principle of non-vague commitment is hard to avoid. I’m proud that as young as we were when we married, we took that part very seriously. There may not have been matching bridesmaids’ dresses, but we came up with a set of vows that remains the basis of how we approach marriage to this day. Our principles:

– Kindness, patience and respect
– Communication
– Responsibility
– Family (our respective families and the one created through the marriage)
– Growth (as individuals and as a couple)
– Partnership
– Taking care of one another
– Cherishing and appreciating each day together

13 years and stronger than ever – so far so good 🙂